If you have yet to discover or explore prostate stimulation you truly are missing out. Even if you don’t usually prefer to receive pleasure through anal stimulation it is something worth trying a couple of times at least, that is if getting the strongest orgasm you’ve probably ever had interests you at all.
In recent years there has definitely been a noticeable focus on prostate stimulation and the ways to achieve the ultimate orgasm. There are now so many toys on the market that are designed to specifically stimulate the prostate in different ways and it can all look a little complicated to the newcomer. The good news is that it doesn’t need to be, all you need is a curious mind and a little patience.
For most, the ultimate goal is a longer and stronger orgasm but once you have mastered this, it opens up the door to milking, edging and denial, which is a whole other level which deserves its own blog. The first thing to do is make sure you have a clean work space down there as this will make the whole experience less stressful and more comfortable. See our How to guide for douching. You also want to make sure your fingernails are trimmed and tidy so you don’t cause any micro abrasions along the way.
If you are unsure of where the prostate is, make yourself comfortable and ensure sure you have more than a few minutes to spare. Get some lube, too much is better than not enough, and slowly insert a finger and start exploring inside the anal cavity. The easiest and most comfortable position is flat on your back, giving you the easiest access. Prop your butt up on a pillow if you like and this will make it even easier. If this is new to you it’s important to take your time and not rush. Be gentle! It can be fun if you have someone to assist but its always a good idea to understand your body through self exploration.
The prostate is a walnut-sized organ, found exclusively in men and located in between the bladder and penis. If you’re having fun trying to find it take your time and enjoy the different sensations along the way. You will know when you’ve found it as the sensation is quite unique and different to anything else you will feel around there. Once you’ve arrived apply a little pressure and massage or rub the area and take note of what is working for you. Even without a toy this is a great way to take masturbation to the next level. Be warned though, once you have tried this you wont want to go back to plain old jerking off.
You wont be able touch the actual prostate directly as there is a rectal wall separating it from the anal cavity. So the pressure applied to get the desired result varies from person to person. If you can resist, just relax and enjoy the pleasure from this stimulation without touching your penis. With time and experience it is quite possible to achieve a handsfree orgasm this way.
Now that you have located your prostate, or P-Spot, the right toy will take this to even a greater level. There are many different options to choose from and it can seem overwhelming at first. I recommend booking an appointment at www.xplcitassist.com for some one on one advice and product knowledge to make sure you have the right toy for your experience level. For the beginner something on the smaller side without the fancy shapes and vibrations is the best place to start. Half the fun is working your way up through the ranks and experiencing all the levels of stimulation as you go. The Bad Boy P-Point Plug is ideal for easing yourself into it.
With the right toy in hand the most important thing is to be in the right state of mind. Being calm, receptive and relaxed will make everything a lot easier. If needed, some music or porn are always a great help to set the mood as well. Keeping in mind its important to relax, make sure you have plenty of time because you don’t want to feel rushed. This is very different to normal masturbation where you might be able to get off in a few minutes.
Now you should be right to go. Remember as before, too much lube is better than not enough so don’t be conservative on that front. Remember the path and how deep you went with your finger but still, try not to rush straight there. Safety first, always stop and hold if there is any slight pain or discomfort. And if there is don’t pull out straight away as you may just need some time to get used to the feeling of having a toy in there. The toy will feel different to your finger so relax and enjoy the journey as you did the first time. The longer you take the more relaxed you will end up being and that works in your favour.
Once the toy is inserted, try not to move your body too much, and when you have found your P-spot the rest is easy you just need to experiment and explore. There are so many different techniques and ways to stimulate your prostate, over a few sessions you will discover the things that work best for you. Part of the fun is not knowing the best and quickest way to arrive at your goal on the first time. But remember its not just about the positioning of the toy. Experiment by contracting the anal wall muscles otherwise known as Kegel exercises. If you’re unfamiliar with this move it is the same as if you were to stop urinating midstream. This will apply extra pressure and add to the pleasure you will feel.
Don’t over do it or overstimulate yourself during the first session. It takes lots of practice to get to a level where you may experience a hands free or multiple orgasm. However you should feel the difference between a prostate orgasm compared to a normal one straight away. They usually last a lot longer, sometimes for over a minute, and you can feel the build up a long way ahead of the actual event. For me, one of the best parts of this experience is how relaxed my mind and body feel for many hours after.
Patience and practice is what is required from this point on. Bring in a partner and you will feel different sensations again as you wont have that full control. Carefully consider different toys as they will all send you on a different journey which is what this is all about. For the experienced or adventurous I personally recommend the Nomi Tang Spotty P-Spot and Perineum Massager. This is hands down the best prostate vibrator I have used, and there is a model that comes with a remote as well.
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